Understanding others without losing sight of yourself.
Coaching for the conversations, misunderstandings, and relationship patterns that can be difficult to make sense of on your own.
You might be upset without being quite sure why.
You might understand where someone is coming from and still disagree with them.
Or you might find yourself going over a conversation again and again, wondering what they meant, what you heard, and where things started to go wrong.
Sometimes, the difficult part is not knowing what happened. It is knowing what to do with it.
How do we talk about something that keeps coming up?
How do I tell them what I need without deciding in advance what they meant?
What do I do when something feels different between us?
How do I bring it up without turning an uncomfortable conversation into an argument?
How do I understand where someone is coming from when we see things very differently?
How do I make room for their perspective without automatically giving up my own?
These are not questions with simple, formulaic answers.
Sometimes, you have to slow things down. Look at what was actually said and what you may have filled in yourself. Try to understand what each person was seeing. Then work out how you want to respond.
The Clarity Session
For one situation you want to think through.
Sometimes you do not need a long-term coaching program. You need time to step back from a situation, make sense of what is happening, and work out what you want to do next. The Clarity Session can be used to think through a difficult conversation, a recurring misunderstanding, a relationship dynamic, or a decision you have been going back and forth on.
A focused conversation around one question or situation.
A deeper conversation for a situation that needs more time and perspective. Includes a written summary and recommended next steps within 48 hours.
The Breakthrough Intensive
For when it is not just one conversation.
Sometimes you notice the same pattern showing up again and again. You overthink what happened. You second-guess yourself. You find yourself giving more than you intended to, or losing sight of what you actually need while trying to understand someone else. The Breakthrough Intensive gives you space to look more closely at those patterns and understand what may be keeping them in place.
Includes 4 Private Coaching Sessions.
The Full Reset
For a longer process of looking at how you relate.
Some patterns are easier to understand than they are to change. The Full Reset is a 12-week coaching program for people who want sustained support as they examine recurring relationship patterns, build greater self-trust, and work out how they want to respond differently.
- 8 private 60-minute coaching sessions scheduled across 12 weeks
- A personalized coaching focus based on your relationship patterns and goals
- Guided reflection exercises between sessions with personalized support
12-Week Private Coaching Program
Coaching Options
Different situations call for different kinds of support. Start with one conversation, or choose a longer process if there is more to understand.
Understanding yourself and other people is not a single step.
Dr. Jacqueline's approach moves through three connected stages: noticing what is happening within you, considering another person's perspective, and deciding what to do with what you understand.
What is happening with me?
Before you can make sense of a relationship dynamic, it helps to understand your own part in it.
Notice what you are feeling, reacting to, assuming, and needing.
Self-awareness gives you a clearer view of what is happening before you decide what to do about it.
What might this look like from their side?
The same conversation can look very different to two people.
Perspective-taking means becoming curious about how another person may be experiencing the situation, what they may have understood, and what might be shaping their response.
It does not mean deciding that they are right.
What do I want to do with what I understand?
Understanding is useful, but it is not the whole process. At some point, you have to decide what to do with it.
Maybe there is something you need to say. Maybe you need to communicate a need more clearly. Maybe a boundary needs to be set. Maybe you need more time before deciding what comes next.
Understanding someone does not mean agreeing with them.
It does not mean excusing their behavior.
It does not mean putting their needs ahead of yours.
And it does not mean you have to stop listening to yourself.
Dr. Jacqueline does not tell you what decision to make. The work is about helping you understand yourself, the other person, and the situation well enough to make that decision for yourself.
Start with what you are trying to understand.
You do not need to have the whole situation figured out before you begin.
If there is a conversation you keep replaying, a relationship pattern you do not understand, or something you are unsure how to respond to, start there.